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No Justice, No Peace!

- featured September 2009 -

"Without Justice there can be no peace. He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it."

-the late Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.


By far, most of the victims and survivors of clergy sexual abuse and assault have found themselves with little to no recourse within the criminal and civil justice systems. Thanks to ancient and outdated laws that protect child molesters with ridiculous and unrealistic statutes of limitations, most of the thousands of Catholic priest pedophiles have walked away without a scratch and the ones that aren't dead are probably still molesting today.

The message these statutes send is, "If you want to commit a crime and get away with it, rape and torture a bunch of children for a couple of years or decades while wearing a Roman collar or nun's habit. The crimes - against body, mind, and soul - will be too devastating and the victims too young for it to be reported until well after the statutes of limitations have expired." And it's a 'Christian' church that most ardently defends this message and these outmoded laws.


New! United Nations Publishes International Humanist and Ethical Union
Statement on Child Abuse and the Holy See

The UN Human Rights Council today [September 18 2009] published a statement by IHEU on the role of the Holy See in the child abuse scandals that rocked the Catholic Church in recent years, and its failure to honour its obligationa under the UN Convention on the RIghts of the Child.
(Click on the link above to read the summary and the statement.)


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Courageous state lawmakers have valiantly attempted to reform these dangerous restrictions to coincide with the better understanding we have of the effects of childhood sexual abuse and the process of recovering from it. However, the Catholic hierarchy wields its powerful political influence every time the measure comes up, including threats, intimidation, personal attacks, and sabotaging re-election campaigns for legislators who support the reforms.

Unfortunately, not all elected officials understand the urgent need for long-overdue government intervention into the Catholic sex-abuse scandal or the harm and stupidity in continuing to leave it to the Catholic hierarchy to police themselves. The following is a statement in a letter, dated August 7 2009, from a member of the United States House of Representatives:

"After numerous investigations, trials, and settlements, those who have committed these atrocious acts [the sexual abuses of young children in the Catholic Church] have been prosecuted by our legal system. As existing laws at the local, state, and federal level make such acts against minors illegal, Congress has not passed additional legislation on the matter."

Martin Luther King, Jr. is not the only one to emphasize the moral responsibility of those who turn a blind eye to evil acts. In the Catholic faith they call it a "sin of omission". Of course, in between the sex-offending priests, brothers and nuns and the complicit laity are the bishops, vicars and lawyers who continue - to this very day - to place the interests of the predators and the institution over the interests of innocent victims and vulnerable children. In other words, in the Catholic Church today, there is a whole lot of sinnin' goin' on. But, what about the responsibility of the government?

The congressman's letter also stated: "We have the utmost responsibility to care for the victims of these horrific crimes and continue to effectively address their needs".

With all due respect, that's the problem! One of the major needs of a victim of any crime is to have justice take place in the form of redress for the criminal offense(s) perpetrated against them as well as the protection for future potential victims. That's the American way, yet, in these case, that is usually not happening. Of course, it's easier to create and fund more treatment, counseling, and awareness programs with glossy brochures and an annual 5K run with free t-shirts, but that offering is seriously lacking given the severity of the physical, sexual, emotional and spiritual wounds survivors of clergy abuse have suffered.

These statements clearly indicate an extreme ignorance in Congress as to the Catholic Clergy Sexual Abuse Crisis. They read like they were ripped right out of the Catholic Archdiocese Spin-Room Talking Points Manual. Thousands of American citizens have been left to deal with the deeply painful memories of their assaults either alone or with the help of close family, friends or survivors' networks. The government has failed them. Society has failed them, The Church has failed them. Most who went to their church for assistance and guidance were further victimized (see below). Even the settlements that some survivors received do not take the place of real justice, especially when the perps (rapists and enablers) haven't even gotten a slap on the wrist.

Yes, since 2002, the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops adopted The Charter for the Protection of Children and Young People, established the Office of Child and Youth Protection in Washington, DC, created a National Lay Review Board to oversee the implementation of the Charter; and hired auditors to review each diocese's compliance with the Charter.

What have all these good and wonderful programs done to protect children from abuse or to help victims heal from the sexual abuse and assaults they suffered as children, sometimes for years?

Not much. Except, of course, to lull the politicians, media and laity back to sleep by making them believe any crimes they committed were simply innocent transgressions and that now they finally know that child sex predators shouldn't be pastors or that they ought to call the cops if a parent reports that their child was raped on church property by church employees. Through all of the public-relations gimmicks employed by the bishops - including the pope himself - the church has tricked the public into accepting the fact that they - the guilty ones responsible for the scandal to begin with - get to make the rules, hire the referees and control the instant replay cameras. It is nothing but a scam to give the public a false sense of security. If the hierarchy truly cared about children, they'd stop fighting victims in court, hiding relevant documents, fighting to keep them sealed, firing principals for calling DCFS and speaking to the media, and financially supporting convicted sex-offenders. And then they'd all resign. These men need to be judged by their actions, not their empty and deceitful rhetoric, lame programs and useless policies.

In fact, the bishops - who are master magicians who turn wine into Christ's blood - are putting on a magic show at this very moment. They show the audience the Dallas Charter and, when the public isn't looking, they actually follow a very secret, devious, and dangerous policy called Crimen Sollicitationis. They make speeches and hold press conferences about how concerned they are about victims and survivors while their attorneys sneak into courtrooms nationwide using every legal hardball tactic against those same victims and survivors. They produce colorful posters and prayers about child protection while their well-paid lobbyists swarm state capitol buildings to fight statute of legislation reforms that are necessary for child protection and healing for victims.

The U. S. Constitution, the Catholic Catechism and the Holy Bible all very clearly state the importance of justice for the common good. It's time church and government ' leaders' stop being a blockade in the quests for justice and child protection and start joining the good effort.



"They are afraid of offending and making enemies - and all of this because of self-love. Sometimes it's just that they would like to keep the peace and this, I tell you, is the worst cruelty one can inflict. If a sore not cauterized or excised when necessary, but only ointment is applied, not only will it not heal, but it will infect the whole [body], often fatally."
- Catherine of Siena, Doctor of the Roman Catholic Church

"It is better that scandals arise than the truth be silenced."
- St. Gregory the Great

What Does the Human Spirit Need to Heal and Move On?
Please Read Rev. Marie Fortune's 7 Steps to Justice in the Column Below:

What Does the Human Spirit Need in Order to Heal and Move On?

1. Truth-telling: a chance to speak the truth about what the person has experienced; to tell the story.

2. Acknowledgement: to be heard and understood by someone who matters; and to have the moral quality of the experience acknowledged.

3. Compassion: literally "to suffer with"; for the bystander to be able to listen and be present to the suffering without "fixing" or turning away.

4. Protect the Vulnerable: to protect anyone else who might be vulnerable to harm from this perpetrator.

5. Accountability: to hold the perpetrator accountable; "confession" and apology are the best case scenario but absent that, some process that seeks, through consequences, to prevent further harm; the theological term is repentance.

6. Restitution: material compensation for the losses incurred by the victim; ideally provided by the perpetrator as an act of repentance; if not, then by the community.

7. Vindication: not revenge; to be vindicated is to be set free; scars remain but healing is sufficient so as not to continue to be held in bondage to the trauma.

The above 7 points were offered by Rev. Marie M. Fortune in a Lecture she gave in December 2001.


The Roman Catholic Church Still Protects Child Sex Predators!
The Catholic Church Re-Victimizes Survivors of Clergy Sexual Abuse!
Catholic Bishops Follow a Secret Policy that Endangers Children!!

bruised and battered little girl

Popes, Bishops, Clergy, Religious and Laity all have
Innocent Blood on their Hands!

What Does it Take to Wake Up Clueless Media, State and Federal Lawmakers, and Catholics in the Pews???


What Happens When a Child is Raped or Otherwise Sexually Assaulted by a Roman Catholic Bishop, Priest, Nun or Other "Religious" Figure???


First, how have some of the perpetrators been described?

"He was young, smart, funny, and sarcastic."

"My abuser was a master of deceit and manipulation."

"He was charismatic and personable, but arrogant."

"The man was a great speaker. He could be the impresario, the master of ceremonies. He was the kind of guy who'd buy you milkshakes and take you to the movies and had a never-ending source of treats. It was a special invitation to be his acolyte."

How do priest-perps "groom" their young victims?

"He had told me numerous times that I was incapable of loving. He gave me alcohol and cigarettes. Throughout this time, [he] was breaking me down."

"He treated me like a younger brother. He built up a trust with me. He took a good amount of time and very carefully crafted our relationship."

"Father took me for a ride in his car 'to talk'. I had a steak dinner and a beer. He bought them. I remember it clearly because it was the first time an adult had ever bought me a beer like I was a peer or something."

"He gave me drugs and alcohol and would play pornographic movies."

"I was completely incapacitated with medication and communion wine and abused in my sleep."

"The other boys and myself were allowed to drink alcohol - whiskey, gin, and beer were all very common to us. In fact, very little in the way of non-alcoholic drinks were provided to us. I vividly remember one night Father was so drunk he vomited on himself while driving."

"I knew [drinking alcohol] was wrong but it seemed okay because Father said it was okay."

"We drank a great deal of alcohol. This helped me cope and I was kind of proud that I could tell the difference between Johnnie Walker Black Label Scotch and Johnnie Walker Red Label by age 15."

"He told me I was 'a very cold person' and that I needed to 'be warmed up'".

"I was awakened when Father got into bed with me. I was scared. Father was undressed (I think he had under shorts on) and he said something like, 'It's just me. I'm tired and I can't drive home'. He scooted up in the bed behind me."

"When you grew up in that time in a strict Catholic atmosphere, it was pretty much known that anybody who wore a habit or a cloak represented Jesus on Earth. You were powerless."

How did some of the children feel, what did they think, while being assaulted?

"I was confused and didn't know why Father was doing this to me."

"As I awoke, I became terrified and stunned. I was profoundly shocked, without any idea of how to react to his behavior."

"I thought about my girlfriend. I thought about school. I counted sheep."

"For 72 hours, I felt like I was under constant attack. It was relentless. I mean, I felt like I was a prisoner at his house... . I remember saying in a moment of silence, when I maybe slept for just a couple of hours, 'God, is this ever going to end? When is it ever going to end?'"

"Feeling confused, panicked, helpless, praying that no one was watching. Yeah, I did pray. Habit, I guess. Breathing was almost impossible."

"I don't even know how to describe how it felt. It's almost like I was up on the ceiling and I was looking down. This can't be happening, but it is happening, and it can't be, but he's a priest, and I can't say no, yet I know it's wrong, and yet he's a priest, and it was just back and forth, and it was horrible."

"I was condemned to hell! I knew that my confessions and graphic descriptions of my fantasies had caused this priest to fall. It was my fault!"

"I was confused, scared, unsure."

"Lying naked in the filth of stolen virginity, stained with the sexual gratification of a child molesting priest, brings with it trauma, shame, bewilderment and confusion."

"When I got home at night after being dropped off, I can remember specifically that he had just inserted his finger in my rectum. I remember getting out of the car and having him drive away and thinking, 'How sick is this?'"

Why did some of the children go back with their perpetrator(s)?

"Why I went back with Father is a question that I've asked a thousand times. I do not have an answer."

"I threw him up against the wall. He literally went down like he was having a heart attack, to make me feel guilty about pushing him and rejecting him. And then all of a sudden, it was right back to the old mold."

"While he had considerable control over my body, he had complete control over my mind."

"He would start this welling up and he'd start this unbelievable sobbing and wailing until he got what he wanted."

"After six years of this abusive relationship, I was simply unable to create enough sense of self to say no to this assignment."

"When he arrived, I tried to stop the sexual activity in the relationship. I would resist him and tell him I couldn't continue. He responded in one of the usual ways. One was the screaming, angry Father Bob, who told me who ungrateful I was for all he had done for me. The other was the tearful, pitiful Father Bob, who told me no one else loved him in the world but me. Both worked."

How long did some of the crime-sprees last for the same victim?

"The abuse lasted 3 years."

"This happed over the course of a 2-week stay" in a medical faility by the hospital chaplain/Catholic priest.



"[He] came to the bed I slept in many more times over the next 18 months."

"This was the start of seven years of sexual abuse which included most any sexual activity between two males that you can imagine."

What happened when children told of the assaults?

Bob Brancato

"My dad told me, 'Believe me, he will never be back and he will never hurt you again'."

"I went upstairs when I was done, and, with no coat on, went outside to the phone booth and called my mother. She answered and, crying hysterically, I told her about the 10-minute rape. She never said a word. I begged her to let me come home. She calmly said no and hung up."

Why didn't most children tell of the assaults?

"Good question, with a very simple answer. I was in extreme denial; quite common with victims of sexual abuse."

"The school would never believe me, I thought, and I feared I would be expelled if I revealed the abuse. I was 14 with no voice, except the one in my head saying, 'You can never tell the truth about what is happening'."

"I couldn't tell anybody because of all the shame and guilt and humiliation... . I just figured, maybe it will end."

"I didn't run home and tell mom and dad. I didn't tell my friends. Losing my virginity to a f---ing guy in a skirt did not seem to be ideal breakfast conversation at home, or in the school yard. "Guess what happened to me?" Telling anyone was not an option. Who would believe me? Would could possibly understand? After all, this was a man of God. No. I immediately buried it. Pushed it so deep inside that I would never find it. I would never have to see it again."

"I felt trapped. My parents would be horrified to know their failure at marriage put their son at risk to be sexually abused and that the man abusing me was the high school chaplain and beloved priest."

"I couldn't tell anyone at home what happened. I had to keep it inside of myself."

"I remember feeling responsible for the abuse almost immediately. I also remember feeling nauseated. I had absolutely no idea what to do. I never occurred to me to tell another adult what happened."

"As the abuse continues, young vulnerable victims of priests wonder: Where can I go with this, who can I trust, I am so sad, I'm angry. I don't know where to turn."

"I could explain how the feeling of shame and guilt were overwhelming for the next few days and weeks and months. I kept this secret inside me. Afraid to tell anyone. Almost afraid to even let people see me because I was sure they would be able to tell that I had sex with a priest. I had no one and no where to turn. I buried this secret deep in the recesses of my mind - never forgotten but I learned to put it so deep in my head that it seemed it wasn't hurting. I told only one person over the next 20 years - that was the other friend of mine who stayed over that same night and was also raped. I didn't tell my parents. I was sure if they knew I would be ostracized or humiliated and I didn't tell my wife. My secret was buried deep in my mind - except for the chronic insomnia and the bad temper.

"In those days no one spoke of such things. I had nowhere to go and neither did my poor Mother. So both of us kept this horrible dirty secret inside of us and all along blamed ourselves - and carried this guilt.

"He asked me something like, 'Where are you going to go? I am not trying to hurt you. I've got your best interest at heart and there ain't a soul in the world that would believe I would put you in any position not good for you'."

How do the assaults change the lives of children at the time?

"I walked into the Hilton pool house looking at life in color and left looking at it in black and white."

"I was a totally different person from what I was when I walked there, less than a half-hour before. And from that moment on, my life was destroyed. Absolutely destroyed."

I tried to do normal things with other kids but I never felt connected. I never felt like I belonged anywhere.

"In school my grades just went down the toilet. I couldn't study. I couldn't concentrate very well. I was not a good student. I was either drunk or hung over and acted out an awful lot in angry bursts of rage."

"When I was 14, I became an entirely different child. I was disruptive in school. I questioned the Catholic religion. I continued to become very angry and very rebellious. I would do nothing that society or the RCC said what right. I would do just the opposite."

".... after years of doing things I couldn't explain."

"As time went by, we noticed our son was reluctant to take part in the things of the church. He didn't want his picture taken and he didn't want to serve Mass. He didn't want to go to church."

"I would ask myself, 'Why am I so different?' and 'Why do I feel the way I do?'"

"During this time, I began to develop into two people - the abused John, terrified and unable to get help, and the public John. I moved easily between these two people."

"I had a lot of behavioral problems back then. I know the source of my alcoholism and drug abuse is directly related to the abuse, but also the fact that my first sexual experience was first with this priest. The first drink of alcohol I ever had was with this priest."

How do the assaults change the lives of children overall and into adulthood?

"My emotional state as of now is a roller coaster... the top being depression and the low chaotic."

"He began drinking heavily and taking drugs and was discharged (from the Marines). A short-lived marriage disintegrated. He once asked (his mother) if being abused by a man 'makes me gay'?"

"You might say I was almost like a sex addict. But I couldn't sustain a relationship. There was just no way a relationship was going to last long in my emotional state."

"Because being in a state of PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) since age 5, I have been speeding and rushing and panting for more than 55 years. You can't fake these symptoms, we can't all have them in different cities at different times in the same way without it being real."

"I began to experience a depression that I am still working out of today."

"Small every day incidents quickly accelerate, in my mind, to the extreme with tragic results. My life has been a series of races that I've never finished. When asked the question, 'Can you do this?' My immediate response is, 'Yes I can' ... and in the same breath, 'No I can't'. I have sabotaged every possible success. I have sabotaged every meaningful relationship with the possible exception of one... And my past, my sexual abuse, could even finish even that one for me."

"I also harbor guilt that I didn't speak out sooner - might it have spared someone else from abuse?"

"I began to experience crying spells. As I continued on this path the emotional outbursts grew. Since I lived with two roommates, I found myself taking drives alone for hours at a time. After finding some secluded spot, I would grieve and cry. Screaming was the next addition to my emotional outbursts. I found myself having to find safe places to scream. It was a matter of making myself scream, it was a matter of allowing myself to let out this terror. As usual, I would take long drives, or scream into pillows in my basement with my stereo blasting. This continues, in some form, to this day."

"It wasn't until law school that I suffered from extreme panic attacks and depression. For a long time I had no idea what was the cause of them."

"Belief that I will be 'found out' as an imposter and that I have fooled everyone into thinking I am a capable healthy person."

"I feared someone might take my baby away from me. I was adamant that I would function fine to the outside world. I became quite good at 'masking'. But my mind was always in overdrive and yet I couldn't hold a thought for very long. I was in a constant state of fear and didn't know why. I rocked myself in the fetal position in corners of my house sobbing uncontrollably or just rocked and banged my head against the walls. I have continued to live a dual life in terms of behavior.

"I may go from a constant need to quick, anonymous sex to being repulsed if someone touches me."

"Self-destructive behaviors, including:
Suicide thoughts, self-inflicted pain imposed upon myself under the guise of religious experience and "God", believing and acting upon the belief that I am meant to suffer, believing that suffering is the only way to please God or to gain spiritual understanding."

Depression..... Rage.... Anxiety Attacks.... Lack of Self-Esteem....
An inability to successfully carry on an intimate relationship......
Confusion and inner conflict regarding sexual identity...
Lack of ability to trust others and excessive personal rigidity..
Lack of clarity with respect to personal boundaries....
Excessive passivity, especially toward male authority....
Compulsion/addictive sexual behavior...
An incapability to equate sex and intimacy...
A continual state of trauma.. A constant state of fear...

"I subscribe to the 'baggage' theory of mental health. I believe we all enter adulthood with a certain amount of emotional baggage from our families and early life experiences. Some of us have very little, others a fair amount. My experience is that abuse victims enter adulthood with steamer trunks on their backs."

"It took me nearly 20 years to gather the strength to help put my abuser behind bars."

"25 years later, I'm still trying to make things right."

"It must be noted that I will be healing from and resolving from within for the rest of my life." (It must be noted that the victim who made this statement ended his own life thanks to his rotten perp, Richard Coughlin, and the rotten bishops/lawyers/vicars who enabled him.)

How do the assaults effect the families of the victims?

"My mother was a devout Catholic all her life and has left the Church."

"What would it do to my relationship with my parents and brothers to tell them of the abuse? What about all my aunts, uncles and cousins - all committed Catholics? How would they react?

How do the assaults affect the spirit or spirituality of the victims?

"Father O'Donnell murdered my soul and he damaged my mind and spirit. This man of God did the same thing to my Mother! This crime that he committed against the both of us, is a crime of spiritual and emotional murder... We were made to feel dead spiritually and emotionally. This, in turn, made a dreadful effect on our health, both mentally and physically."

"I lost Jesus in this. I don't know who that happened but it did. How do I get that back?"

"I went through a long period as a child when I aspired to be a priest."

"It creates a spritual disconnect."

"I was not only sexually abused, but spiritually abused as well."

"I wanted to be a priest, until I was molested."

Why did some victims go to the church for help and what was the response?

"We turned to the church. We really wanted to give them the opportunity to handle this."

"1. They want the church to acknowledge that they were abused by one of their clergy.
2. They want an apology.
3. They often want some help paying for the resources they need to try to get their lives back.
4. They want the church to reach out to them with compassion and support. They want to be folded into the arms of the church and nurtured and supported through recovery."

"Our concern was that the diocese please reach out to other victims. And we were looking for understanding and accountability."

"I went to the Archdiocese (of Denver) to report Father Tim. I asked whether I should have an attorney when I met with the Archdiocese. They told me that I shouldn't have an attorney and that the Archdiocese doesn't bring attorneys. When I got to the meeting with the Archdiocese, Nancy Wailer introduced everyone there. Nancy told me that one of the people was an attorney. I questioned why an attorney was present when I was told there would be none and I was told not to bring one. Nancy told me at this point that she was an attorney. Both of them said that they were not acting on a legal behalf during the meeting. I found out during the criminal trial that the other attorney at the meeting was Charles Goldberg, the attorney for Archbishop Chaput and the Archdiocese."

"There is nothing so devastating for a victim as going to the Church for help and being treated as a legal adversary."

"Virtually every person I have ever met when a Catholic priest has abused has gone to the church for help. I have never met one who felt the church took care of him or her properly. Instead, the victims have been lied to, ignored, berated, condemned and mistreated. We have a word for it - revictimization. It is a common experience."


"When I came forward with my abuse, I went to the archdiocese first. My abusers were notified immediately of their removals, but I was sent to speak with a bishop who was a good friend of one of the priests who abused me. I found him arrogant and patronizing and I was told to go home and consider what restitution meant and come back when I had any ideas."

"An example of my experience is day two of my three days of being deposed by Atty. Joanne Goulka for the Diocese (of Worcester, MA). She was not my ally and I knew that going into it. I had seen her tactics while sitting through my Grandmother and Mother's depositions. Even so, I had no idea how cruel she would be. I preface this instance with the fact that during my lawsuit my personal journals and my therapy records had been produced as part of discovery. That meant that all my innermost thoughts about my abuse, my recovery, my therapy - all of it, was there for them to scrutinize. I had written about how seeing nuns and priests in their habits had bothered me and acted as a trigger for me. I had also mentioned that I had vivid memories of my perpetrator's cross dangling over my face as he raped me. With this information, Atty. Goulka showed up in a black suit with a white collared shirt - just like a nun's habit. Hanging around her neck was a four-inch cross of garnets."

Why do victims go public?

"Being silent had allowed my perpetrator to continue to abuse for many years. Now that I remembered everything and was dealing with it, I had to speak out."

"If this story compels even one person to seek help for being sexually abused, then it is all worth it."

"With this understanding the, yes, I have been sexually abused, comes a converging sense of self understanding and inner resolution regarding aspects of my self that have been dysfunctional and troubling."

"I want to take this awful experience and use it as a tool to warn others. I hope my story will help in some small way."

"It was very difficult for me to tell my wife, family, friends and colleagues what happened. I have struggled with the decision to publicly come forward with my story. I don't want to do this, but I believe I have to. If my story, in some way, can prevent even one child from facing the pain of sexual abuse and the hurt of manipulation by someone they trust, then my discomfort will all be worth it. I firmly believe that silence, denial and the lack of action is the greatest tragedy in this entire Catholic crisis. I need to break the wall of silence."

"I feel a strong personal ethical responsibility to help other survivors and to try to hold the church accountable."

"I decided that the only way I would get the diocese to take action against Father Huneke was to expose him publicly. I became obsessed with stopping him and protecting any future victims."

"I'm encouraged and very relieved to finally come out and say I am a victim of abuse."

"I hope that someone will have the nerve to pick up on my story and tell it with the hope that some other survivors can find the empowerment to seek help."

"1. Because the Catholic Church continues to deliberately and profoundly fail in doing the right thing to support the victims of its priests' sexual abuse;
2. Because when I speak of my own abuse, other abuse victims come out of their isolation and darkness and try to get help;
3. Because it helps me to cope with and integrate the effects of the sexual abuse I suffered for seven years at the hands of a Catholic priest."

Why does it take so long for victims of childhood sexual abuse to come forward?

"I am now just discovering the harm, pain, and embarassment this molestation has caused to my body and mind." (15 years after the abuse ended)

Why do victims sue the church?

Please see 'What was the response of the church' above.

"For me, going the legal route was more about having the truth known to protect other children than anything else. The law did not allow me to file any criminal suit, but I could file a civil suit."

"I am taking action today because I was deceived by the Archdiocese of Denver."

"for future medical and therapy expenses, damages for physical and mental pain and suffering, lost wages and earning capacity and punitive damages."

"I sued them and I agreed to a settlement one week before the trial was to begin. I did so for several reasons; because the perpetrators had been removed, because other victims had come forward, and I got a written admission of guilt included in the language of my settlement. So for the reporters in this room, my abuse was not "alleged."

How does the church treat victims of sexual abuse by clergy, nuns and 'religious'?

"Through it all, the church in which I grew up, the Roman Catholic Church, treated me like the enemy."

"A small handful have sued the church and won. Most have given up, bested by the lowest form of hardball legal tactics employed by the Church."

"That meeting (with the bishop) began a nine-year battle to have Huneke removed from active ministry. During those nine years, the bishop moved the priest from parish to parish. The bishop insisted that there were no other victims and I should let it be. The bishop did not want to hear about it."

"The RCC is very good at spending money on lawyers who file every possible motion imaginable to hid the truth and muddy the waters, rather than helping victims with therapy costs. It was all legal, but was it ethical?"

"The Catholic Church continues to behave with arrogance and aloofness."

"No one ever apologized for what their priest did to me. In fact, no one ever even admitted in writing that he had abused me. No one ever asked how my life was or what effect it had on my family and me. No one offered to pay for my therapy or speak to my despondent, grieving parents."

"[Cardinal Francis George of Chicago] acknowledged he wrote the [perp] priest a number of times, including in 2000 when he told Maday that the six years Maday had served should be 'enough to satisfy the state and any sense of justice'." (Maday reportedly sexually abused more than 40 children.)

"They [TV cameras] captured the near-riot that ensued as parishioners shouted at us to leave the church grounds. (Victim, his father and brother were distributing letters outside the parish where his perp was having Mass. The victim has unsuccessfully tried to get the bishop to remove the perp priest.) Parishioners attacked the cameraman, injuring him and tried to grab the microphone from the reporter."

What are some of the most devastating effects of the sexual abuse and then re-victimization?

"I remember wanting to kill myself after a choir sponsored pool party." (Perp was choir director/priest).

"My son [John Houston] didn't just take his life. Father Maday and [Cardinal Francis] George had a part in it."

"I kept the details of the first abuses a secret and as a result became hell-bent on self-destruction. I was a cutter. I was obsessed with burning myself. I poured acid in my eyes. I swallowed thousands of pills."

"Roughly a month after the abuse started, I attempted to commit suicide. I took a bottle of my mother's pills. I lined them up one-by-one on my maple dresser. I took them all and lay on my bed hoping to just fade away and die."

Some media reluctance to cover cases of clergy sexual abuse.

"The paper wouldn't publish the story. The reporter, a religion writer assigned to the story, told me I seemed more like some sort of 'teacher's pet' to her than an abuse victim."

"The newspaper was still uncomfortable with the story despite my new revelations (a list of about 10 other victims from the same perp)."

Encouragement to victims from survivors to speak out and seek help:

"I also want to encourage others who suffer in silence to come forward with their own stories - you are not alone."

"I ask all of those other people that are out there who were harmed by Father Tim, the Archdiocese, or other perpetrators to come forward to law enforcement so that this does not happen again."

"You can shed (emotional) baggage as you progress through life or you can choose to keep it and slog along."

"All it takes is telling one person. From there, strength grows and you can tell a second person and so on. Then you can finally have control of your life back."

Are you still with us? Now that you know, what are you prepared to do about it?

Take the next step by reading further into our web site. See below for some ideas.


There are 7 Main Sections of our Site.


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The First is the Home Section that contains the following main links:

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Our Welcome page, our About Us page, our Site Map, and our Contribute page.



The 2nd Section is The Garden which contains the following main links:

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Real Treasures, In Remembrance, Advocates, Past Reformers, and the Weed Patch.



The Weed Patch includes the Following Pages:

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The Head Honchos, the Big Kahunas, the Sex Offenders, the Sell-Outs, and Pew Monkeys


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The 3rd is the Sunlight Section which contains the following pages:

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Understanding Abuse, Laws & Legislation, Commentary, Ways of the Church, Exploits, FAQ

The Financial Exploits page will lead to the following sub-pages:

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Grace for Sale, Morally Bankrupt, Truth Lock-box, Wet-bars and Casinos, Vows of Poverty

(Some of the pages directly above are still under construction and should be up soon.)


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The 4th Section is titled Protection and includes the following pages:

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Recognizing Abuse, Reporting Abuse, Empowering the Vulnerable, Toppling the Pedestal, Petitions


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The 5th Section is TLC which includes the following pages:

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On Healing, Your Health, Healing Centers, Gardens, Recovey, When Hope Seems Lost


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The 6th Section is The Library which includes the following pages:

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Books, DVDs, Clippings, Directories, Video Links, Facebook & Twitter, and our Bulletin Board



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The 7th Section of our web site is called One Parish and it includes the following pages:


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A Basic Timeline, Headlines, Documents, Notable Quotes and Questions and Comments.

as well as

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The Phony Documentary & the Hateful Web Site and
The Phony Bishop and the Hateful Lawyer

The One Parish Link is found on the very bottom of all the major pages in this site.
One Parish focuses on exactly that - one parish - St. Peter Catholic Parish in Geneva, Illinois which is located within the Rockford Diocese under the direction of Thomas Doran (above).


Double Dipping

The Catholic hierarchy is constantly making financial pleas to the congregation for money to pay for all of the so-called "social programs".

At the same time the Church has lawmakers putting in for thousands of dollars - sometimes millions - for those same programs.

It is not uncommon for priests, employees or volunteers to help themselves as many have been prosecuted for theft.

Exactly how much of your tax dollars go to the Catholic Church every year? It is impossible to say, but it is indeed in the millions, if not billions!

Meanwhile, bishops and Cardinals are living large in mansions all across the nation and world!




What Can I Do?

1. STOP DONATING TO THE CHURCH!

There is no financial accountability in the Church and the bishops use your money to fight victims in court and legislation that would better protect children.

As long as Catholics continue to feed the beast, there is no reason for the beast to change its diet.

2. CALL YOUR ELECTED REPRESENTATIVES AND URGE THEM TO CUT OFF GOVERNMENT FUNDING TO RELIGIOUS ENTITIES.

There is no government oversight of programs run by religious institutions.

If the government isn't going to investigate child rapes that occur within church walls, it certainly isn't going to make sure state and federal funds are being used appropriately.

Donations to a church are voluntary. Taxes are not. Taxpayers are being forced to fund corrupt corporations like the Roman Catholic Church.

Our Founding Fathers wrote a separation of powers and a separation of Church and State for a reason.

Let the government do its thing and let the churches do their thing. Jesus never said, "Feed the poor through the government".

This financial incest between the two has got to stop!

3. CALL YOUR ELECTED REPRESENTATIVES AND URGE THEM TO CALL FOR AN INDEPENDENT AND THOROUGH INVESTIGATION INTO THE CHILD SEX ABUSE SCANDAL IN THE ROMAN CATHOLIC CHURCH.

Congress has investigated the Major League Baseball Steroid Scandal but not the Roman Catholic Clergy Sex Scandal which left tens of thousands of American children raped, tortured, sodomized and/or ritualized by the hands of thousands of clergy and other uniformed employees of a single Corporation called the Roman Catholic Church.

Despite claims of the Roman Catholic hierarchy, children are still in grave danger and Church policy still demands secrecy - still rewarding those who look the other way and still punishing those who call civil authorities.

The Mitchell Report is a public document detailing the findings of the MLB investigation. Many baseball players were forced to testify before a Congressional Hearing as to their knowledge and/or involvement of the steroid scandal.

The 9-11 Commission Report is also a document made available to the public, detailing findings of an Executive Branch/Legislative Branch Mandated investigation into the terror attacks of September 11, 2001.

Earlier this year, the government of Ireland released findings of a state-mandated investigation into the child abuse scandals within Catholic-run institutions.

To date, the United States Government has yet to investigate a Child Sex-Assault scandal which left many American children dead and thousands upon thousands of American citizens left on their own to recover from "Soul Murder" without any recourse or justice for the crimes committed against them.

In fact, the majority of priest-pedophiles were never arrested and are free to roam the country - free to molest and rape again and again.

Most states have a criminal Statute of Limitations on child sex crimes, preventing criminal prosecution of pedophiles with a long list of victims.

Most states also have a civil Statute of Limitations which prevents victims of child sexual assault from seeking recourse through the American court system.

The following is a comment from a survivor of child-sexual-abuse-by-clergy regarding the ignorance and injustice of such Statutes:

"The fact is that it is very rare to have sexual abuse recognized for what it is until the child enters a "safe" environment. Often, that is not for 20 to 50 years later, if ever. Someone who insists a victim should recognize the abuse as illegal or improper before any specific age demonstrates their ignorance of human behavior and allows criminals to thrive, thus denying justice. True, we cannot legislate morality, but where morality is lacking then legislation is, unfortunately, the next best thing."

4. MAKE GENEROUS DONATIONS TO VICTIMS/SURVIVORS GROUPS.

Most victims and survivors of sexual abuse by religious figures have an extremely difficult life recovering from the heinous crimes committed against them.

Experts say such abuse is worse than incest which tops the scale of traumatic abuse.

Because the assaults are inflicted by a "person of God", many victims lose their spirituality completely, having been essentially raped by God himself.

The long-term - and sometimes life-long effects include difficulty keeping a job, difficulty with relationships, depression, substance abuse, mental/personality disorders, engaging in high-risk behaviors, and even suicide.

Innocent victims should not have to live with the consequences of abuse any more than anyone else should.

Professional assistance can help victims learn how to cope, recover, and survive!

Professional assistance requires money which many victims lack due to the hard lives they have had to live.

The Church wants your money so it "can help the needy" but the Church is already loaded and has squandered and misused parishioners' hard-earned dollars for generations.

Give your money where you know it will be put to good use and spent wisely and compassionately.

Reach out to those who have been abandoned and cruelly-treated by the Roman Catholic Church.

Some places to start:

Companions in Hope

Survivors Network of Those Abused by Priests

 

Thank you for your kindness and your wisdom!


1 in 4 girls is sexually abused before the age of 18.

1 in 6 boys is sexually abused by the age of 18.

Only 10% of children are abused by strangers.

Nearly 50% of all victims of forcible sodomy, sexual assault with an object, or forcible fondling are children under 12.

30-40% are abused by a family member.

50% of victims of child sexual abuse are abused by someone outside the family whom they trust.

Long-term effects of child abuse include fear, anxiety, depression, anger, hostility, inappropriate sexual behavior poor self-esteem, tendency toward substance abuse and difficulty with close relationships.

Many survivors of child sexual abuse by clergy refer to their abuse as "Soul Murder".

"It is a lot of miracles because I died when I was young. And only now I'm starting to find what has been lost for so long." - survivor Jaime Romo

"The most painful state of being is remembering the future; particularly when it is one you can never have." - survivor Rick Springer

"I have had to struggle to live my life. Meanwhile, the man who raped me is out living his life without having to spend a day in jail." - survivor

"I was one voice, and there were a lot of people who weren't willing to do anything. I had to find credibility on my own." -survivor Frank Fitzpatrick

"When he entered my room he had already won." -survivor Bill Gately


The Proper and Necessary Way to Attain Justice:

What Does the Human Spirit Need in Order to Heal and Move On?

1. Truth-telling: a chance to speak the truth about what the person has experienced; to tell the story.

2. Acknowledgement: to be heard and understood by someone who matters; and to have the moral quality of the experience acknowledged.

3. Compassion: literally "to suffer with"; for the bystander to be able to listen and be present to the suffering without "fixing" or turning away.

4. Protect the Vulnerable: to protect anyone else who might be vulnerable to harm from this perpetrator.

5. Accountability: to hold the perpetrator accountable; "confession" and apology are the best case scenario but absent that, some process that seeks, through consequences, to prevent further harm; the theological term is repentance.

6. Restitution: material compensation for the losses incurred by the victim; ideally provided by the perpetrator as an act of repentance; if not, then by the community.

7. Vindication: not revenge; to be vindicated is to be set free; scars remain but healing is sufficient so as not to continue to be held in bondage to the trauma.

The above 7 points were offered by Rev. Marie M. Fortune in a Lecture she gave in December 2001.


Contrary to the belief of many, including certain members of the US Congress, the majority of victims and survivors of childhood sexual abuse and assaults by Catholic clergy and religious have NOT received anything close to justice and the majority of perpetrators employed by the Church have NOT been prosecuted for their crimes.

THIS IS WRONG and it MUST BE ADDRESSED.

Please contact your elected officials and demand action today!!!

Start with the White House

1600 Pennsylvania AveNW
Washington, DC 20500

202-456-1111

whitehouse.gov

Find Your U.S. Senators' Phone Numbers Here and Call Them Today!

If you have trouble finding your senators' contact information, email us with your state and we will send your senators' names, addresses and phone numbers.

 



Taxpayer Hand-Outs
to a Corrupt Corporation
With No Accountability

 

Why does the United States Government funnel millions of dollars in taxpayer funds to the Catholic Church every year without any accountability?

Why does the Catholic Church not have to abide by ethics and lobbying laws like every other political action committee?

Why do United States' presidents and politicians continue to seek the counsel of corrupt popes, bishops, and cardinals who have been complicit in rape and sodomy of tens of thousands of innocent American children?

Why do so many United States' politicians continue to kowtow to Catholic bishops and vote against extending or abolishing the state statutes of limitations on child-rape cases?

How does the Catholic Church get away with raking in millions of dollars every Sunday, not having to pay a dime in income or property taxes, and yet directing congregations from the pulpit on how to vote in political elections?

Why did president Barack Obama recently praise a child rapist?

Read our new Feature on the Home Page.

 


PLEASE CONSIDER SUPPORTING OUR WORK

Since the Roman Catholic Church has failed so miserably to protect the children in their care and then bring effective healing to the thousands who were raped as well as the rest of the congregations - all of whom were betrayed with lies and deceit , we feel called to do whatever small gestures we can to pick up the slack - and it's a heck of a lot of slack.

If you support our efforts and this cause, please consider sending in a tax-free donation so that we may continue to 'be church' OUTSIDE the walls of the Holy Mother Roman Catholic Corporation.

Our mailing address is below. Thank you!



Don't bother writing to the church.

Write to someone who might actually have the kahunas to
FIGHT FOR JUSTICE and PROTECT CHILDREN!!!

You might try.......

The White House
1600 Pennsylvania Avenue NW
Washington, DC 20500

1-202-456-1111

whitehouse.gov

LET YOUR VOICE BE HEARD!!!

 


This home page feature is dedicated to the memory of Bernadette M. Green, 1926-2007.

"Free at Last, Free at Last. Thank God Almighty, She's Free at Last!!!"


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